Being a parent isn’t easy. In fact, it is one of the hardest jobs in the world. After all, there is no parenting school – all you can do is to try your best and see how it works. Sometimes it takes trials and errors and sometimes you have to face failures. But it is always worth the shot because we are talking about the kids – YOUR kids – and how to set up a good emotional and psychological foundation for them.
Be There for Them
You probably think that your kids will be happy with all the wealth in the world – the big house, the fancy toys, the expensive cars – but guess what? It is you who will be happy with all those things; not yet. Children don’t care with the wealth or the fancy stuff. They only care about your presence – whether you will be there for them or not. Focusing too much on work or business will give them the sense that they are somewhat unwanted and not needed, and that’s bad for your relationship. Simply being there for them, spending quality time together, and focusing on them will give them a sense of loved and wanted. When kids have enough of that, they won’t look somewhere else. Care is the most important element in the parenting efforts.
Be involved in their activities and their lives is also a crucial thing that all parents should do. It doesn’t mean that you should be stalking them the whole time, doing their homework, or not letting them do their responsibilities. Being involved means that you are there to guide them, spending some bonding time together. When they are working on their homework, participate with them – but let them do it themselves. When they join in an extracurricular activity, you can support them by watching them practice or be involved in the club’s activities. Again, it may not be the easiest parenting job but it is worth it.
Each Child Is Different
Another parenting tip to remember is that no kid is the same – each of them is a unique soul and individual. If you have more than one kid, you will see that they are different – with their unique personalities, characteristics, and habits. Stop comparing them to one another – you wouldn’t like it either when you are compared to others, right? The best thing that you can do is to create your own individual and personal approach for each of them.
Loving, Not Spoiling
A lot of parents think that spoiling is the action of loving. In reality, you are basically destroying them. The easiest way to destroy your children is to spoil them because you don’t give them the foundation to survive and to stand up for themselves. They won’t learn about the cruel world and how to fight their way. If you do love them, you need to teach them manners, discipline, and how to survive – although you may have to be strict about it. This is one of the hardest parenting jobs but if you are able to pull it off, you have achieved a great success – for you and your kids.