Whether you have a toddler or a teenager, your job as a parent will never end. In fact, it is a life job which means that you will never stop being a parent – despite the fact that your kids have grown and they have managed their own family. Parenting skills aren’t inherited – they are achieved through experience, failure, and hard work. Things will probably be easier if there are schools for parents – but unfortunately, you know that such a thing doesn’t exist.
The Initial Steps
So, what should you do when you start the parenting role? You learn – whether through your own experience or from others. Before I have my own kids, I took part in my niece’s development. I learned from the way her parents took care of her, nourished her, and such thing alike. It turned out that such experience isn’t enough for my own. I learn that each kid is special; they are different from one another. You can only do your best – learn from other people’s mistakes or your own. There are times when you are down but the most important thing is to learn from it and move on.
Adaptability is another thing that you will naturally develop once your parenting role kicks in. Your may be used to your first child being obedient and easy to talk to but you notice that your second child needs to have a different approach. One of the major skills you learn by becoming a parent is being able to adjust yourself to different situations, conditions, and characteristics. You need to know when to become strict or lenient. You need to know when to become pushy or laid back. There is no rigid construction, instruction, or manual about it – and that’s the hardest thing about being a parent.
Trust is a big issue and it is a sad thing that most parents and kids lack of such a thing. Trust building isn’t an easy thing but if you manage to reinforce it from their early age, it will naturally develop. For instance, if you have shown them that you are always there no matter what and they can always turn to you, they will always have someone they can call home – no matter how old they are. Once the trust has been set up and reinforced solidly, nothing can break it down. How to build one is one of your parenting responsibilities.
One of the most important things about being a parent is not to stress it out. No parents are perfect; they are just flesh and bones trying to do their best despite their mistakes and flaws. You have mistakes. So what? You need to get up, learn from those mistakes, and move on. Don’t be too obsessed with everything. You need to remember that your kids are free individuals with their own thoughts and wants – they aren’t robots that you can always control. You can only give them the important basic and let them choose their way. Sure, it is one of the most difficult parenting jobs but that’s what life is all about, right?